I’ve been reading a fair number of blog posts in which sewists look back at the past year, which gave me the idea to do the same with an eye to seeing what I can learn about myself from the photos I published this year. It’s not the individual makes so much as the “looks” that I’m interested in. And this post is primarily for myself and may involve some self-examination, so feel free to skip it 🙂
It was a year of practical sewing, making wearable items to replace a wardrobe that was pretty much non-existent. Although I love clothing and have often spent many an hour drooling over shop windows, I’ve never financially prioritized clothing. I’ve worked at jobs that didn’t require nine-to-five attendance, or the wardrobe to go with it.When I bought an old house a dozen years ago, that pretty much eliminated discretionary spending too.
The result is that I haven’t really known what I would like to look like if I had the choice. Now that I’m sewing, and finding all kinds of places that offer fabric pieces for massive discounts, I do have the choice. So, if not jeans and sweats and fleece, what? The external always reflects and reveals the internal. What I choose to look like will tell me something of what I’ve become by this post-sixty stage of my life.
Here are ten pix I liked from the last 12 months. While sorting through all the blog posts to find these (and I left out the last three simply because they were so recent, and I wanted to stick to the number ten) I pronounce myself “arty”. Huh. Who’d a thought?
I can also see that I’m pretty happy. I know I’m smiling for the camera, but I remember how I felt when I took all these pictures and I was always feeling pretty good. If I think about it, these pictures reveal that I’m happier than I have ever been in my life. I’ve been aware of this. Over the past two years I’ve sometimes stood looking out my bedroom window at the city and mountains and trees and felt happiness — a quiet kind of contentment — spread like a fine mist inside my body.
I also see in some of these looks a bit of a f**k you attitude. I’m not trying to look attractive. Conventional beauty doesn’t interest me. Conventional clothing doesn’t interest me. I don’t wear makeup and sometimes I think that at my age I should. But I really can’t bring myself to care enough.
Still … if there’s one thing I’d like to see more of — and maybe this will be a sort of goal for the coming year — it would be a kind of quiet, unostentatious elegance. Maybe I’d like to drop the “f**k you” for a self-assured elegance. If I could move in that direction, I think it would reveal greater self-acceptance. So maybe that’s really what I’d like for 2017.
A lot of good looking makes. I especially fall for outfit two, and I love the attitude in picture nine:-)
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Thank you GEC. I’m partial to outfit two too. Those pants hang on a hook on my bedroom door so I can easily grab them any time.
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I admire this woman’s persistence, but we will not be making clothe like most of these. Ok?
Sent by DeCourcy’s iPad
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Ok! Thanks for looking 🙂
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Love the mint shirt best, and in the last pic you’re heading towards elegance, purely understated, long may it continue! 😀
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Thank you Ali. For your comment and best wishes.
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Your clothes / looks are unconventional. Since you mentioned that you are planning for un-ostentatious elegance, how about respecting the body / form / shape and going with it? A kind of acceptance of the form….., the lines, the flow of the fabric, …..
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Thank you Sana. Yes, I agree. I think it takes experience too to get the perfect match of fabric and pattern plus the perfect match of that and body type. I’ll continue working on it.
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Arty is good, and I think it describes you…and should transition well into elegance. The white top with pin tucks is fabulous!
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Thanks Jen. I look forward to seeing how things might change, probably in subtle rather than obvious ways, over the next year.
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How interesting to know that we are still learning and developing individual style. I suppose our style and preferences change with the changes in our lives. Isn’t life interesting?
Felicia, develop your style to suit yourself and whatever makes you happy and content. Lovely to see all your outfits for last year. Thank you.
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I can’t help but think that one’s style has to change with greater inner maturity. Don’t you? I’ll keep “sewing with intention”, to shape an image that matches the reality. Thank you for your best wishes (and for modelling patterns that I might like to try 🙂
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I do hope you drop the f–k you attitude too. No need for it.
If you truly are satisfied, you have no need for it. The all white
outfit is adorable, incidentally.
Would love to see your house. Sounds great. pictures.
I too am past 60, even more, and it does seem to be the best time of my life.
Love patterns and fabric and mourn lack of quality fabric stores
in my area and can’t get used to the idea of on-line shopping.
Quiet elegance is always what I’ve been about. Every one looks
best where they’re comfortable in their own skin and their
wardrobe reflects that, whatever style it may be.
pk
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hi pk,
I read somewhere once that rebellion is just the flip side of obedience. In neither case is one totally free. I think rebellion, or defiance, may be a decent starting place — to defy convention, or expectations, or assigned roles. But one has to move beyond it.
Quality fabric stores are in short supply here too and postage rates make online shopping pretty expensive. That’s one reason I didn’t bother sewing for decades.
Do you have a blog or IG account where I can see how you do quiet elegance? I don’t recognize your initials …
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I like the mustard/grey outfit the best. It’s more arty than f-u, and it looks great on you. I appreciate this post because I too am trying to identify my (future) style.
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Thank you Lulu for your feedback. And good luck with your own search.
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I like the second look best. I can relate to the “F you” – my friends and I talk about that feeling as we get older – not being aggressive, more not stressing about pleasing others all the time. I hear it as just meaning you are making yourself happy, not holding yourself to anyone else’s standards, and enjoying experimenting. Good for you – life’s too short not to try new shapes and styles. Keep sewing, Felicia, you are inspiring.
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Thank you Fab. Why is it often such a long journey for women to stop worrying about pleasing others and just please ourselves as though we have every right to? (that’s a rhetorical q) You keep it up too 🙂
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I’m with FabricHoarder- a little fuck you doesn’t hurt. You’re definitely giving the ‘art teacher chic’ thing a run for its money. It’s more and more becoming my way too, just little quirky touches or unexpected colours and combinations that make me happy.
I like 2 and 9 best, just because!
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Thank you for your support and your vote. Yea for art teacher chic! Yes, a little quirky and unexpected is good.
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Of course you’re creative! You sew, you craft, you sing & perform, you’ve reworked a lot of your home & garden, you write… Perhaps I’m naive, but instead of “f-u” I think of your style as free, flowing, devil-may-care. . . And I really enjoy seeing what you’ve come up with in each new post.
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Thank you Del! What a lovely endorsement 🙂 I saw no sunday sevens from you this week?
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From your South Salish Sea (Seattle) sewing sister, a huge salute for a wonderful 2016 year of (what a photographer friend of mine called) A-F style (Artsy-Fartsy, in the most positive sense). To A-F, I would add: fabulous F-U.
The older we get, the more we understand the power of “as it harm none, do what ye will”.
I, too, am working on finding my “crone” style. I’m feeling an edgy, with elegance, but also f-u kind of vibe (but for sure more understated than Advanced Style) – and thank goodness I sew, because there is NOTHING in the stores that gets me there.
BTW, the mint shirt and the white pintuck outfit are my all time favorites.
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Wow, thank you so much for this comment, and all it contains. Yes, time to celebrate “cronehood”. We have no models as crones have been extinct for a long time, so we get to create something new. Someone should start a blog category, with badges, something like “Old Crone Network”. I’d grab that badge 🙂
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Ditto!
(Just tried to send you an email & it didn’t go through.)
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